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Happy Thursday folks!
Here is my favorite passage of the week, two quotes and book of the week with two important lessons to ponder on:
Passage of the Week:
American Record Producer and Author Rick Rubin on art as non-competition:
From “The Creative Act” by Rick Rubin
Two Quotes:
“Books are the quietest and most constant of friends; they are the most accessible and wisest of counselors, and the most patient of teachers.”
“When you reach the end of what you should know, you will be at the beginning of what you should sense.”
Book of the Week with 2 Important Lessons:
The book of the week is The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins and Sawyer Robbins.
Two simple words will change how you think about your entire life.
If you’re struggling to achieve your goals or feel a little happier, the problem isn’t you. The problem is the power you give to other people. In this book, you’ll learn how two words “Let Them” can set you free. Free from the opinions, drama, and judgment of others. Free from the exhausting cycle of trying to manage everything and everyone around you. There is a better way to live.
This book teaches us how to protect our time and energy, and focus on what matters to us. It is written as an easy to understand guide. In this book, Robbins shares relatable stories from her own life, highlighting key takeaways, relevant research and introduces us to world-renowned experts in psychology, neuroscience, relationships, happiness, and ancient wisdom who champion this theory every step of the way. By letting other people live their lives, we finally get to live ours.
Here are two important lessons from the book:
1) You Have Zero Control Over Someone Else’s Opinion of You:
Poet Mary Oliver asked this question in her poem, The Summer Day: “Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” I don’t know what your answer to Mary Oliver’s question is, but I do know this: Whatever it is that you plan to do, other people are going to have an opinion about it.
People will have negative opinions about you and there is absolutely nothing you can do to change this fact. When you allow your fear of what other people think to stop you from doing what you want to do, you become a prisoner to other people’s opinions. This fear impacts every aspect of your life. It makes your procrastinate. It makes you doubt yourself. It paralyzes you with perfectionism. It’s the reason you overthink.
It is impossible to control someone else’s thoughts. Therefore, fearing what other people think, or trying to control their thoughts, is a complete waste of your time. You will never feel in control of your life, your feelings, your thoughts, or your actions until you stop being consumed with or trying to control what other people think about you.
The fact is, adults will have negative opinions about you, no matter what you do. Why? Because adults are allowed to think whatever they want. It is physically and neurologically impossible for you to control what someone else thinks. The average human being has about 70,000 thoughts a day. Most of which are random and cannot be controlled. Starting today, you are going to grant people the freedom to think negative thoughts about you. Let Them.
2) Keep Showing Up:
You have a beautiful and amazing life to live. You have potential beyond your imagination. You are not limited by where you live, or the circumstances you are facing, or the aspects of your life that you believe are limitations.
If you can be honest with yourself about what you truly want, and take responsibility for creating it, you will. You don’t have to be special. You just have to get up every day, put one foot in front of the other, and work hard to do a little better, and be a little better, than you were yesterday. And one of these days, you are going to wake up and realize that you not only changed yourself, but you are in the middle of living the life you were once jealous of.
Let others have their success and leverage it to fuel your own journey. Other people’s success is evidence that you can do it too. By turning inspiration into action, you begin to build the extraordinary life you deserve.
Books I am currently reading:
The Book of Elon: A Guide to Purpose and Success by Eric Jorgenson. It focuses entirely on Elon’s most useful and timeless ideas that work.
Beyond Belief by Nir Eyal. Discover the three powers of belief shaping what you see, how you feel and what you’re able to do to unlock your true potential.
1984 by George Orwell. It took me long enough to pick this book, but here I am.
READING TIP: Read daily.
Reading 10 pages a day = 3,650 pages a year.
That’s 10–12 books. Make time for reading and learning in your daily routine.
Thank you for reading and all your support.
I am excited to keep bringing you the new and old books, great insights, and lessons.
Until next week, stay curious and happy reading!
— Ravi Shah | @readswithravi
